–noun control by oneself or itself, as in an economy, business organization, etc., esp. such control as exercised independently of governmental supervision, laws, or the like.
...the ability to control human behavior behavior through the exertion of will. Self-control is required in order to inhibit impulsivity, and has been a recurrent theme throughout history, culture, and philosophy, where it is considered a key to volition (psychology) and free will.
Western Society
These differing degrees of self-control can be seen when comparing Western and Eastern cultures. In the United States, there appear to be strong tendencies for self-control and impulsivity. Western societies typically describe self control as, “goal-oriented productivity, assertiveness and instrumental doing”. Logue further states that, “self-control and resistance to temptation has long been part of Americans’ Judeo-Christian heritage. However, in recent decades, there has been concern that this early emphasis on self control may be dissipating”. This dissipation has been attributed to the baby boom or, “me” generation of the 70’s & 80’s and the decreasing rate of savings by current members of this age. This decline in self-control has additionally been noted by Kelly Brownells’ research stating that in modern society, “the degree to which someone is judged as possessing self-control is significantly affected by the degree to which the person has a fit, thin body”(Brownell, 1991)
Eastern Society
...In Japanese culture, “individual gratification is valued much less than is advancement of the fortunes of the group. This requires individuals to set aside their personal interests in order to work for the long-term goals of society”
Self control and the quality of life
Reviews concluded that self control is correlated with various positive life outcomes, such as happiness, adjustment and various positive psychological factors.
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self regulation involves the regulation of one's behaviour, actions, in response to the environment or those around him. naturally, this requires a certain degree of 'holding-back' of one's impulses, in better chance of making, or not making a decision which has undergone more thought. in other words, it is a head over heart outcome.
in large quantities of self-regulation, this results in one's behaviour becoming stifled, withdrawn, and might carry signs of the 'artificial chokehold', making one's behaviour appear uncongruent, unnatural, or restricted. at this extent, instead of allowing one to conform to his environment, it may seem as an attempt of 'trying too hard'. also, excessive self-regulation uses up one's resources mentally. "Self control as a limited resource: Research by Roy Baumeister and others shows that the ability to self-control oneself relies on a power source that diminishes after exertion. Subjects that were given a task that involves self-control were later less able for self-control even in entirely different areas."- wikipedia: self-control. therefore, it is shown that excessive self-regulation has detrimental effects, both individually and even possibly to those around the subject.
however, absolution is not a practical solution for any issue, and self-regulation is no exception. on the other spectrum, should one ignore the benefits of apt self-regulation, his behaviour will tend to be more impulsive. in other words, he behaves with considerably little or no self-restraint in his actions with little or no evaluation of the environment around him. therefore, he risks being a social menace. he usually becomes condescended by others, and is looked down upon by others around him. while detractors, such as those promoting 'positive and empowered beliefs and attitudes' (among youths), denounce self-restraint, claiming that having 'positive and powerful beliefs' about themselves are crucial to excelling in any area of their life, this is an overtly idealistic and simplistic notion which has little place in a society which demands one to be conscious, tact and in touch with the ongoings around him.
therefore, self-regulation can be compared to the benefits and dangers of using fire. by using it to a required extent, benefits can be derived from it, but using too much of it comes with its implications as well. my stance: use it to a beneficial extent.
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